Why are we settling?

Recently I have had an epiphany.

Two weeks ago I turned 25 and entered a new stage of my life (so to speak). Suddenly, I am no longer considered a “recent graduate”, “young adult” or a “20-something”.

I am kinda grown-up.

I am now in my mid 20s and should develop some new behavioural patterns, be “more grown-up” and do some major life changes. Find a job, get married, follow the unwritten rules.

It’s all so predictable.

Where I am from, it seems that everyone is acting in a certain way: running through college years and not really living them (school-home-school home scheme), graduating and finding a not even remotely satisfying job (but a job), staying in  so-so relationships (which are not fulfilling, but after five years people aren’t brave enough for any actual change) and dedicating their life in playing the ever so famous game:


What about you?  What about all your dreams and plans for your life?

When you were five, they asked you what do you want to be when you grow up. Your answers were:

–  a singer, a ballerina, a princess, a mermaid.

Did you ever plan to be an administrative technician? A post-office secretary? Dental cleaner?

But it happened to you; while you were busy making other plans, life happened to you.

So what do you do?
You just go with it.

– You settle.

Often people ask me how they wish they can travel as much as I do. I tell them: So do it!

-But I don’t have enough money/free time/etc etc.

So it’s your choice! YOU are choosing to stay with your boring job, YOU are choosing to work 8 hours a day and come home unhappy and

you are choosing to go to sleep every night with your dreams put away in your nightstand.

I cannot do this for you. No one can! It is you who has to create a life for yourself and please, be aware of that fact.

Just look at me: I was just a student (with all the financial insecurities that come with that) and yet I managed to find a way to live for almost half of a year on another continent! I wanted to go somewhere and found a way to do it. You can do so as well! To me it was always important to find an alternative way to possible problems because that often was the best way to do it for a very simple reason:

– I was the only one doing it.

And that almost never fails!

The only way to learn how to do it is just… to do it! 🙂 There is no special secret, no special ingredient you can take to become more active: it has to come from you. Snap out of your life-induced coma and just do it.

Don’t settle. I know it’s easier said than done, but remember: no one else can do it for you. Time will not be on your side if you decide to stay in your bed and just dream.

Instead of putting your dreams away, try to do something to really live them.


– Tina

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